Dear girls of the globe,

Have you ever felt that your surrounding appears so loud and noisy, but there is no actual noise that your ears can hear? Is it just our brain? Are we overthinking? Perhaps yes or no, but for confident you will agree that society has so a lot noise of expectations of what and exactly where we need to have to be in life. And whether or not we like to admit it or not, these societal expectations are plaguing us, plaguing us to the point that we even doubt our personal selves. Crawling feelings of shame deep down our veins frequently stem from what other individuals feel. For girls, shame is this tangled chain of unobtainable expectations. Even competing, conflicting noise of societal expectations of who we are supposed to be.

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How’s the future going to be if I do this or that? If I decide on this and that? Is it for the lengthy term? Do you see a future in it? These are the concerns I continually ask myself in almost everything that I do in the previous years. I’d like to think that I am nevertheless in my early 20s or as young as a teen that saying I like him or I want this and that right away could be fascinating and simple to do. Then if items finish or I do not like it any longer, I can rapidly move forward and not just move on.

When we are young, life appears so a lot simpler for the reason that we are nevertheless guided, pretty curious, and is in a understanding stage exactly where we are much less scared to attempt various items. But for a 30-year-old lady like me, I normally have this feeling that I am anticipated to have almost everything figured out by now. At my age, it is no longer the query of “do you like him, this and that?”. It is a lot more of “do you see a future?” And by that, if you really feel me, I’m placing as well a lot stress on myself. I really feel like my life has an hourglass that is placing each stage of it in timer. That at a particular age, I must be accomplishing and attaining a thing. That by this age I have purchased my personal residence, saved millions in my bank account, have a fiance to settle down, or currently married and raising my kids, have steady higher paying job, or a very good profession, and the list goes on— tick tock tick tock. I want I have figured almost everything out for myself by now, but to be truthful, I do not know. What I know is I am a 30-year-old lady, solo traveling the globe and raising the Philippine flag a single nation at a time. All I know is I am living my life the way I know, and I am delighted.

I look to be carrying out effectively in the physical globe, yes. If you know me, in all probability I am a single of the most optimistic, delighted individuals you have ever met. Usually smiling, under no circumstances a sign of be concerned nor overthinking. A pretty chill particular person, but I guess not. For the previous years, the future keeps bugging me, and I am not going to deny it. No matter how lots of detours I make not to be impacted by societal expectations, nevertheless it gets me. At the finish of the day when I am alone in the quiet cold space, lying in my bed, hunting at the ceiling, my brain is non-quit analyzing, questioning, operating, questioning. It is deafening inside my head. It is my each day battle, and it is a challenging a single. But you know what’s significant? It is nevertheless facing the struggle though embracing your vulnerability at the exact same time. Let oneself be vulnerable. It is component of becoming human. And it is okay for the reason that vulnerability is courage, not a weakness. It is the most precise measurement of courage. And it is by way of vulnerability that we share empathy with the globe. It provides us a much better understanding that all of us have variations, and have our personal stages. That we do not have to compete against every other, and we do not have to race for accomplishment. Living your life on your personal phase, carrying out the items that you are genuinely passionate about and attaining what you genuinely want to develop into is way fulfilling than attempting to conform with society’s expectations and deadline even when you are not however prepared.

If there is a single issue I’ve carried out, and I continue to do that I am pretty proud of is that I invest in my passion and continue just to be me. The saying “Follow Your Dreams” is I feel overrated, and for a cause, that following your dreams is not adequate for the reason that you have to invest in them. When I say invest in your passion does not only involve funds, but it is about vulnerability, resilience, and most specifically grit. It is a challenging globe out there but go ahead, invest in your passion! If you like to sing, but individuals say you do not have the voice and singing does not spend the bill, get oneself the ideal voice coach to enable you! If you like to dance, take that class! If you want to be a painter, go ahead stroke these brushes with all your heart! Train oneself. Do not just practice but great practice. One particular of my mentors mentioned that great practice tends to make great. But Yvette, absolutely nothing in this globe is great. Says who? Society. Specifically, so I guess the way to accomplishment is the mindset and work for your objectives. Your perseverance and passion will make it great. The journey will occasionally be painful and can also break your heart, but preserve going and be resilient. Your accomplishment is all in your grit!

Dear girls of the globe, the globe requirements you to be you so be you! Preserve shining vibrant carrying out what you enjoy and of course, reside the ideal life on your personal phase!