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Yep, it occurred.

Final month within the Philippines, as I used to be dozing off in just a little bungalow on a seashore you could solely boat to, I felt the partitions and ceiling of my room shake. At first I handed it off as an animal, till I noticed somebody shine a lightweight into my room and attempt to open the door from the low balcony. 

I panicked, and the one factor I assumed to do, was shine a lightweight proper again at them to allow them to know that somebody was inside. Fortunately it labored and so they disappeared, and after I heard the proprietor strolling by way of 20 minutes later, I opened the door to let her know.

She seemed shocked. “I… I’ve no phrases,” she stammered.

Within the 10 years that the villas have been there, predicated on an settlement with the locals who dwell there, there had by no means been any risk to the set of bungalows earlier than. It appeared implausible and but, it occurred.

I used to be shaken up for a few days. I questioned: Ought to I go away? Ought to I let it go? In the long run I stayed, however I realized a number of issues from the expertise which might be on the high of my thoughts now.

These are the errors I made and what I might have accomplished in a different way:

I acquired lazy:

Whereas I’m not sufferer shaming myself, I acknowledge that I’ve gotten a bit lazy. It’s at all times after I get ambivalent and break my very own guidelines that I’ve points, like strolling alone at evening in Nepal and getting robbed in Berlin. Each sucked, and neither one is solely my fault, however each might’ve been prevented. Although I couldn’t have prevented this scenario, there may be extra I might’ve accomplished to make myself safer.

Carry a private alarm and doorjamb:

Once I was interviewing solo feminine vacationers for my 31 Ideas for Solo Feminine Tavel Safely and Conquering Mountains, a few ladies talked about carrying a doorjamb and a private alarm. Though there have been no police round on that seashore, had I made a whole lot of noise, maybe the house owners or different villagers might’ve caught the wannabe thief. Since I’ve no manner of letting anybody know whereas it was occurring, I used to be simply caught stewing till I heard the proprietor strolling by a while later.

Though this was a sliding glass door, a doorjamb would shield you in most conditions. With a doorjamb up towards the door, it may well’t be opened.

*Be aware that I don’t suggest mace or pepper spray since most airways won’t allow you to hold it on board and even put it in checked baggage. In some locations, just like the EU, it’s additionally thought-about a hid weapon. 

Make it simple to rise up and go:

If I had wanted to bolt, I might’ve run out the opposite door with a flashlight and my footwear close by. However that’s not how I set it up. I are inclined to sleep unclothed, so that will have delayed me or would’ve pressured me to run outdoors bare in a reasonably conservative nation. Two selections I don’t love.

Fortunately my cellphone was close by sufficient that I might use it as a flashlight, however that was about it.

Study and follow self-defense:

I’ve began working towards self-defense after this example. I already knew a number of issues however I believe it’s essential to take it even a step additional. I don’t imagine that the particular person making an attempt to return in needed something to do with me, however having the abilities is useful irrespective of the place you might be on the earth, and within the worst case state of affairs, it’s good to know a factor or two.

Issues I did proper:

This isn’t to say that I did every thing fallacious. I did lots proper, too. The most effective factor I did was to lock the door as a substitute of assuming that I might sleep with the door open or be relaxed sufficient to go away issues unlocked. I at all times lock my doorways it doesn’t matter what, even when individuals inform me they by no means have a difficulty or that it’s not needed.

After an preliminary interval of being a bit scared, I additionally didn’t let it harden me to the attractive place I used to be at and make me fearful and mistrustful of the individuals on Tablas. There are unhealthy eggs all over the place, and desperation drives individuals to do issues they’d most likely quite not.

Following that, a reader reached out to inform me that she had been following my footsteps on Tablas and had by chance misplaced her bag along with her cash and digital camera in it, and that it was truly returned to her in its entirety! It virtually feels that every thing is canceled in and out concord once more with that tremendous gesture.

In the long run I haven’t determined to cease trusting after I journey. I don’t wish to consistently dwell in concern – that’s not in alignment with my view of the world or how I wish to really feel. I’d quite assume that everybody is nice and doing their greatest. It didn’t scare me out of touring solo, as a result of that would’ve occurred it doesn’t matter what, and has occurred to me a number of instances at house in California, anyway (it’s the place I’ve had probably the most house break-ins – 3 – and probably the most theft).

Nonetheless it did make me conscious of the methods through which I’ve gotten lazy. I’m chargeable for my very own security after I journey. Particularly when in such distant locations, I’ve to keep in mind that it’s nonetheless not time to completely let my guard down.

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