AK Month-to-month Recap: Could 2019


A lot good occurred this month — however I’m going to open with a narrative.

I wanted to purchase a brand new strapless bra earlier than the Antigua journey, so I went to Victoria’s Secret. I attempted on my traditional measurement, 36B, together with some 34Bs and 34Cs and 36Cs simply to cowl the bases, and nothing match me proper. I sighed and determined to name within the saleswoman to get measured. Most girls put on the mistaken bra measurement; I used to be in all probability off, too.

“I’ve been carrying a 36B endlessly,” I informed her as she wound the tape round me. “34B earlier than that. However my physique has modified since I began understanding — possibly I’m truly a C?”

“No, honey. You’re a 32DD.”

I blanched. “Are you fucking kidding me?”

“No. That is your actual measurement.”

32DD. The head. Actually the perfect measurement that exists on the planet. Have I critically had Double D’s my whole grownup life WITHOUT HAVING A CLUE?! Apparently.

I spent the subsequent hour making an attempt on just a few dozen bras — every kind of shapes and types. Seems her measurement wasn’t a fluke. 32DD match me PERFECTLY. And now I’ve to purchase a totally new bra assortment as a result of I’ve realized how poorly the previous ones have been becoming me. You’re not purported to poke out of the tops like a soufflé.

Within the grand of scheme, does your bra measurement actually matter? No. In fact not. However I’m screaming it from the rooftops anyway as a result of it was such a very good shock.

I really feel like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz. All my life I’ve been dwelling like a wonderfully common B-cup, and who knew that I had Double D’s all this time?!

Locations Visited

New York, NY

Lengthy Bay, English Harbour, St. John’s, and Turner Seaside, Antigua

Ansonia, CT

Picture: Brendan van Son


An unbelievable journey to Antigua. This is among the greatest journeys that I’ve had in a really very long time and I can’t wait to share all of the tales with you. Traverse placed on a mini-conference for journey content material creators on this excellent little island. All of us stayed on the identical all-inclusive resort, The Verandah, we selected the actions we needed to do, and we principally had an open bar for seven days straight.

Antigua is a beautiful little Caribbean island — and really easy to get to from New York, with nonstop flights on a number of airways! Sprawling out in water hammocks was wonderful, as was testing the markets and consuming the sweetest black pineapple, Antigua’s signature fruit. Driving on a catamaran, taking within the sundown, in addition to gallivanting over the view of Shirley Heights — simply pure magic. And I get impressed after I spend a lot time with my inventive colleagues! Count on extra on Antigua quickly.

Elevating greater than $1,000 for NARAL Professional-Selection America. Within the wake of assaults on reproductive rights in america, I began a fundraiser on the Adventurous Kate Fb web page — and so lots of you chipped in. I really like that I can rely on you to face as much as injustice and put your cash behind it. THANK YOU.

Seeing BLKS, a brand new off-Broadway play. I bought comped tickets to this present on the model new MCC Theater in Hell’s Kitchen.  This play was SO humorous, I couldn’t cease laughing! It’s branded as “Like Broad Metropolis or Ladies, however with black ladies,” and that’s fairly on the nostril — although far more like Broad Metropolis. The present is about three twenty-something black ladies dwelling in Brooklyn and coping with their lives, loves, and the fuckery that New York presents. I cherished it and it is best to go see it.

Recognizing a Okay practice within the wild. The opposite evening I used to be ready for an A practice at Canal Avenue and a Okay practice pulled up on the native observe! That is loopy as a result of THE Okay TRAIN HASN’T BEEN IN SERVICE SINCE 1988. As in when Reagan was president. One way or the other the trains nonetheless have these previous indicators and with a hex key some pranksters have been capable of flip them to the Okay practice. Weird.

I posted it to the NYC subreddit and it went viral. It’s at all times trippy when your readers acknowledge you on Reddit!

Getting skilled pictures taken in SoHo. I actually cherished the yellow costume I bought for Antigua, so I employed a photographer from Airbnb Experiences to do a photoshoot. It’s good to lastly have some good skilled pictures based mostly in New York!

Spending time with two of my little loves. Two of the little infants in my life have not too long ago was adorably rambunctious toddlers. I really like attending to spend time with them. And I melted into items when one little boy took two steps towards me for the primary time ever. And now he likes to stab me with a sword and giggle as I shriek and faux I’m harm.

A number of enjoyable instances in New York. New eats, new drinks, enjoyable instances with pals.


Shedding a good friend. See the “In Memoriam” on the backside of this publish for extra. And truthfully, each time somebody dies, it feels ridiculous complaining about the rest that occurred this month.

Two of my shut pals moved away. And I needed to say goodbye to them on the identical day! One residence to Sydney, one off to a brand new journey in Austin. I’ll miss them each and I want New York weren’t such a transient metropolis.

Almost lacking my flight to Italy. My flight to Italy was on an airline I’ve by no means heard of — Air Italy — and after I went to verify in, there was no file of my flight to Milan, solely residence from Milan. And JFK had no file of the flight. It took 30 minutes to get by means of on the cellphone to buyer servic,e however they stated each the flight and my ticket existed, so I headed to the airport.

However that wasn’t all. I often take an Uber to JFK, however as a result of I must go away throughout rush hour on a summer time Friday, I elected to take the subway. I took the LIRR out to Jamaica and discovered THE AIRTRAIN WAS NOT RUNNING TO JFK. I initially waited in line for a shuttle bus switch, however after a couple of minutes, I spotted that no one was gong to make their flights on time and I summoned an Uber. Even with that Uber, I solely barely made it by means of safety in time.

Normal New York transit insanity. Someday I needed to take 5 trains — D, F, A, C, and S, in that order, to get from Harlem to Crown Heights on a Sunday, and to make issues worse, the D practice went native and was filled with Yankee followers. The following weekend, I needed to wait 28 minutes for the L practice — in the midst of the day. The subway is a multitude and it’s unconscionable how our leaders are failing us.

Getting caught in a rainstorm in open-toed sneakers…in Alphabet Metropolis. Alphabet Metropolis is just not near public transportation, and because of basic fuckery the F practice wasn’t even working after I wanted it. The streets of New York might be gross to start with, and even worse when it’s rain and it’s a must to stroll practically a mile.

Quote of the Month:

Will: “I’m going to be 22 quickly. I’M SO OLD!”

Me: “You aren’t previous! I’m 34.”

Will: “What have been you want whenever you have been 22?”

Me: “Let’s see. I lived in Boston, I’d go to golf equipment continuously, and I’d grind on a unique man to ‘Return of the Mack’ each weekend.”

Will: “Cool. What’s ‘Return of the Mack’?”

Most Well-liked Put up

Solo Feminine Journey in Australia — Is it Secure? — Australia is a unbelievable nation to journey solo — so long as you’re sufficiently ready for driving and wildlife!

Different Posts

Transferring from Boston to New York — 25 Issues You Must Know — I really feel like I’m the utmost skilled on this topic, so I used to be thrilled to lastly write concerning the cultural variations between these similar-seeming cities.

The place to Keep in Seattle — Greatest Neighborhoods and Lodging — A whole information to the perfect neighborhoods and motels for every kind of vacationers.

Most Well-liked Photograph on Instagram

If there’s a yellow and blue wall someplace, shouldn’t you pose in entrance of it? Effectively, that’s definitely what our group in Antigua thought, as a result of EVERYONE was taking pictures in entrance of this wall! For extra updates from my travels, observe me on Instagram at @adventurouskate.

What I Wore This Month

I had a VERY good month for trend — I’m actually proud of the clothes I selected for Antigua! The one within the widespread Instagram picture above is by Amanda Uprichard, which I rented through Lease the Runway. It was the PERFECT costume to put on on a ship. My good friend Will informed me I regarded like a privileged pirate, and my good friend Tom informed me I regarded like Dutch pottery.

I used to be obsessive about this yellow Derek Lam costume from Lease the Runway. My entire life, my mother has been telling me I can’t put on yellow, so it was wonderful to listen to so many individuals (together with my mother!) telling me how good the colour regarded on me. I felt like royalty!

I had truly rented this scorching pink Hutch romper final yr, and I wore it a lot that I made a decision to purchase it from Lease the Runway this yr. I really like how it may be dressed up or down and be both sporty or dressy. It was simply pretty much as good on the seaside in Antigua because it was on the US Open final yr.

And at last, I purchased a pair of attractive overalls from Distinctive Classic. I haven’t worn overalls since center college however I’m OBSESSED with this cropped fitted pair by Voodoo Vixen.

What I Listened To This Month

I’ve been listening to a lot about Lizzo, and this month I lastly bit the bullet and checked out her new album Cuz I Love You. Effectively, Lizzo is value each little bit of hype. She infuses her songs with a lot humor and self-love — and on high of that, the songs are fairly danceable! My two favorites are “Juice” and “Tempo,” the latter of which is the best twerking track of the previous few years.

What I Watched This Month

This month, I rewatched Intercourse and the Metropolis for the primary time in my thirties and the primary time since transferring to New York. I needed to see how their experiences of thirty-something relationship in New York within the late 90s and early 2000s matched as much as the late 2010s — and boy, was it fascinating.

I’m truly trying ahead to writing about this. Individuals who rewatch Intercourse and the Metropolis are inclined to complain about the identical points time and again — that the present had no variety, that Carrie couldn’t afford her life-style, that Mr. Massive by no means would have modified. However I would like what I write to be totally different. For starters, I couldn’t relate to something till Petrovsky confirmed up, after which the hairs on the again of my neck stood up with familiarity. That’s as a result of I’ve primarily dated overseas guys in NYC, typically incomprehensible and engaging overseas guys.

Additionally, the clip I hooked up above is the funniest clip within the collection — when Miranda lastly figures out how one can soiled speak. I laughed till I cried. The expression on her face…

What I Learn This Month

Effectively, I type of fell off the studying wagon this month. I went from averaging round 10 books per 30 days to solely studying three. I’m at 46 books for the yr to date and nonetheless hope I can meet my purpose of 100!

Shortest Manner Residence: One Mayor’s Problem and a Mannequin for America’s Future by Pete Buttigieg (2019) — If you happen to’ve been listening to the 2020 race, you’ve heard of Pete Buttigieg’s run for president by now. He has essentially the most fascinating biography of anybody working — elected the mayor of South Bend, Indiana at age 29; went to Harvard; was a Rhodes Scholar; joined the Navy reserve and served in Afghanistan; speaks seven languages, and is homosexual and fortunately married to a social media darling named Chasten.

This e-book lays out Buttigieg’s biography superbly, in addition to showcasing the great work he’s achieved in South Bend. I’ve been supporting Mayor Pete for president for the reason that starting of the yr, and this e-book strongly communicates his values and what he would convey to the presidency. I really like his type of writing, too — it’s so calm. It jogs my memory plenty of Murakami, however with out the creepiness.

We Are By no means Assembly in Actual Life by Samantha Irby (2017) — Samantha is a author, comic who lays her entire life naked. This assortment of essays is about life, love, failed and profitable romances, awkward sexual encounters, and what occurs whenever you scatter your lifeless mother or father’s ashes within the mistaken route.

This was my e-book membership’s choice for the month and it was a enjoyable learn, typically laugh-out-loud humorous. That so, there was a bit of little bit of melancholy to it — I really feel like most girls memoirists have plenty of unhappiness infused of their comedy. It was an awesome learn and I’m so glad to listen to that Samantha discovered love and bought married!

Let’s Discover Diabetes with Owls by David Sedaris (2013) — If you happen to’ve ever learn a set of David Sedaris essays, you recognize what this one goes to be like. This newest assortment of tales discusses every little thing from his first colonoscopy, his adventures selecting up trash on the aspect of the street within the British countryside, and his craving for a friendship along with his Parisian periodontist, together with tales from his childhood that he has one way or the other held off on telling till now.

I’ve at all times cherished studying David Sedaris’s essays, however this was the primary assortment the place I felt a bit uncomfortable at instances — significantly when he was discussing race. I don’t assume that he’s modified over time (and I do keep that “Six to Eight Black Males,” a narrative a few remarkably racist Dutch Christmas custom, is one in all his greatest essays of all time), I feel it’s extra of an indication of how I’ve modified over time. That stated, most of this e-book was a humorous learn. I listened to it as an audiobook and it made an awesome background for after I was taking walks across the reservoir in Central Park.

Coming Up in June 2019

As this publishes, I’ll be in Italy! Certainly one of my absolute favourite nations on the earth — FOR THREE WHOLE WEEKS. Cailin and I might be touring collectively the entire time.

We’re beginning in Bologna, my favourite Italian metropolis, staying with our pals Steph and Mike and their lovely two-year-old daughter. Subsequent we head as much as Trento within the Trentino area for Traverse 2019, the place I might be talking about an important issues I realized in 9 years {of professional} running a blog. After that, we head to the Dolomites for just a few days, staying on the culinary resort Ciasa Salares, then we head all the way down to Lake Como for 2 days, then spend per week in Milan whereas exploring the encompassing area. I plan to go to Verona and Torino for the primary time and return to Florence for the primary time since 2006. This fall might be 15 years since my life-changing semester overseas, and I plan to commemorate it.

What I’m trying ahead to essentially the most is seeing my pals. After that, studying new issues on the convention. After THAT, I simply wish to drink one million espressos whereas standing on the counter. Va bene. God, I really like Italy.

In Memoriam

We skilled two large losses within the journey running a blog group this month. The primary was Evelyn Hannon of Journeywoman, who handed away after a three-year battle with most cancers on the age of 79.

Evelyn was our fairy godmother — I can consider no higher time period for her. She started running a blog within the mid-1990s, when actually no one else was running a blog about ladies’s journey. Her sources have been the sunshine within the darkness for thus many ladies on the time. As time went on, Evelyn turned a logo of touring at any age. She graciously contributed to my Solo Feminine Vacationers Over 40 publish and was the oldest lady featured at age 75.

Relaxation in peace, Evelyn, and thanks for doing all your half to assist ladies obtain their goals.

After which there was Rachel. Rachel Jones of Hippie in Heels died abruptly on the age of 29. You may learn her obituary right here.

Whereas Rachel and I have been by no means shut, we had been on-line pals for years, and had seen one another final in December in New York. What I admired about her was how beneficiant and humble she was — way over most individuals I’ve recognized. She cared deeply for animals and adopted two road canines. She demystified journey in India for ladies and made the nation extra accessible to vacationers, particularly nervous and uneasy ladies vacationers.

Rachel was going to get married this yr. I’m heartbroken {that a} life can finish so abruptly with none warning. I nonetheless can’t imagine she’s gone; it doesn’t really feel actual. We’ve misplaced a lot.

Relaxation in peace, Rachel.

What’s developing for you in June? Share away!

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